Our life coaches, Style and Substance: On jealousy

Michele Armani and Sally Meisenheimer

Michele Armani and Sally Meisenheimer

Dear style & substance:

I am embarrassed to say this, but I am finding that I am a very jealous person. I don’t really let it show in public, but my thoughts are very often consumed by what other people have and I don’t….like nice cars, houses, relationships, clothes, it can be anything that I don’t have. I would really like to change this, as it is consuming me. How?

The first thought we had when reading your questions was, “This reader is very self-aware!” Jealousy is a feeling we have all experienced at one time or another but to recognize, name, and own an uncomfortable feeling is very brave. Jealousy can be immobilizing or it can be a catalyst and motivator for change. You began your sentence with the word embarrassed which tells us you want to move past this limiting emotion. Ask yourself the following questions to help you move through your envy of others and achieve your own success:

What do I want from life? What is missing?

How will having more (fill in the blank) change my life in a good and positive way?

Have I ever benefited from an unfair advantage?

Generally, when we are actively improving ourselves, we can become a little gentler in our definition of who we wish we were or what we wish we had, because it is in our own reach! A realistic sense of self, a personal definition of success, and an attitude of thankfulness, can lead each of us to contentment and away from envy.


Style & Substance:

Michele Armani and Sally Meisenheimer

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